Confident people believe in themselves. They don’t pretend to be perfect or have all the answers, but they do trust in themselves that they have the ability to figure it out. Because they are assured in their own capabilities, they also don’t feel the need to boast or puff up. Confident people are the read deal.
How about you? Are you less than confident about who you are and what you can do? Would you like to feel more confident? If so, here are __ things that confident people don’t do.
1. Confident people don’t compare.
Confident people know that comparison is the thief of happiness and so they don’t go there. They understand that comparison is a quick way to feeling incompetent, less than and inadequate.
2. They don’t make excuses.
People who are confident rarely make excuses for their lack of knowledge or their inability to get something done. They take full responsibility for what they do or don’t do and what they know or don’t know. Confident people know that they are not perfect people and they don’t expect perfection in themselves or in others. When stuff happens, they take responsibility, they admit their mistakes and they simply see to be better and learn from it.
3. Confident people don’t accept things without thinking.
Confident people know that their biggest asset is using their brain. They are not simpletons and they are not followers. Confident people do not accept something as the truth just because someone says so. They make their own decisions about the veracity of the information they encounter. Confident people use their brains to critically examine whatever is presented before them.
4. They don’t get held up in the minutia.
Confident people are realistic and yet at the same time, they don’t get caught up in all the possible reasons things may not go well. They understand that in life, there are always going to be complications and hurdles. They know that everyone falls down sometimes and that failure is part of the growing and learning process.
Confident people look for solutions rather than reasons to quit. They pick themselves up after they fall. They are creative, resourceful and innovative in their thinking. Confident people know that if something is worth it, persistence and creativity will serve them well.
Resource: Rising Strong by Brené Brown
5. Confident people don’t people-please.
It is not in the culture of confident people to be men-pleasers; hence they don’t try to please everyone they come across because they know that it is just impossible to please everyone in this life. They give more of their time to establishing qualitative relationships and not just relationships of large numbers.
Likewise, confident people do not have a need for permission from others to do the things they are called to do. They take necessary action.
6. They people don’t listen to negative feedback of those that don’t matter to them.
Confident people know that there are opinions that matter and opinions that don’t. They understand that the world is full of criticizers, fear mongers and haters. Confident people don’t get caught up in the negative chatter of others. They know who is worth listening to and who is not. Unless someone is in a position where they truly care to help someone grow and be their very best, the cheap opinions of others is meaningless to a confident person.
Similarly, confident people don’t need constant reassurance from others. They are mostly self-reliant in this way. They hold their course, remaining steadfast and committed to what they are doing without relying on others to keep them on track.
7. They don’t spend time criticizing or judging others.
Confident people are sure about who they are. They are at peace with their abilities as well as their shortcomings. In other words, they have healthy self-esteem. Because they feel okay with themselves on the inside, they don’t feel the need to spend time criticizing or judging others.
One of the easiest ways to tell if someone is not confident in themselves is to notice that they are constantly criticizing or judging others. Confident people don’t feel the need to do this.
8. Confident people are not ruled by fear.
Confident people are not unafraid, rather they don’t let fear rule them. Fear is a normal part of life. There are things that are scary in life. No one gets through without some fear involved. The difference between confident people and the rest is that confident people are not controlled by fear. Confident people do the things they need to do even if it scares them. They know that in embarking on these things, they will grow into their best selves and find greater fulfillment in life.
9. They don’t stay inside their comfort zone.
Similar to engaging in things they are afraid of, confident people also know that the most growth and personal development lies outside their comfort zone. Confident people guard against complacency and too much comfort. They know that just like a muscle needs to burn in order to become stronger, sometimes they too need to be outside their comfort zone to become stronger.
Confident people understand that dreams and aspirations are prematurely terminated by staying in their comfort zone. They keep their zeal and passion even when it feels uncomfortable. They know this is where achievement happens.
Recommended Resource: Antifragile: Things That Gain from Disorder
10. Confident people don’t procrastinate.
Confident people know that getting things done leads to a greater feeling of fulfillment, less stress and a better chance of success. From small details to big projects, confident people get things done. Confident people know that there is no better time than now. They don’t put things off because they don’t feel like doing it or because they have a fear of the unknown. They simply get their stuff done. Confident people take action knowing their success and effectiveness is dependent on doing so.
Similarly, when problems come up, as they do, confident people deal with them before they snowball out of control creating bigger issues. They deal with things head on.